Being confident comes with more than just thinking that you look good or that you are above all. It isn’t a single idea or thought about yourself; it is a whole process and state of mind. It takes a certain mindset and belief to get you in that true confident zone.
Self-confidence is defined as being able to recognize one’s strengths and accept one's weaknesses. It’s having self-respect within yourself and never feeling less about who you are, what you like, and what you believe; it's having the courage to always stand up for yourself. When our confidence is high, we are more motivated to act on things that prepare us for success. Whereas, if you expect yourself to fail every time, you will.
Here are some tips and scenarios to help give you a confidence boost and set you apart from many:
Positive affirmations DAILY; it is exactly as it reads. When you start saying the things you want to come true, they will eventually come true.
Stop seeking validation. You don’t need to validate your feelings and thoughts to anyone else.
Be delusional in the sense that if you believe that you are something or some version of someone, your mind and body will start acting like it.
Set daily goals, whether they are big or small. Be proud of yourself for all of these things.
Don’t let negativity take up time in yourself; this is draining and unnecessary stress.
Recognize or become familiar with what you’re good at and embrace it.
Start saying no and stop pleasing people. Most people take for granted the things you go out of your way to do for them. It is not worth it.
Put yourself first. This goes to say, don’t take on other people’s problems, i.e., things that shouldn’t concern or involve you.
Be kind to your body.
Stop giving attention to the things or people that crave attention. This shows a lack of security in yourself.
Boost YOURSELF up; don’t wait for others to do it, and don’t be mad when they don’t. This goes along with seeking validation. Don’t expect compliments, approval, or praise either.
Do what makes you happy and what is right for your life; accept who you are; and change what you want to change.
Stop complaining about things that don’t matter; you are making them matter.
Embrace being wrong; take it as a learning experience.
Respect yourself.
Don’t envy others' success.
Stop trying to always prove yourself and be right in every situation; this is the main form of insecurity.
Be able to laugh at yourself and not get offended easily. Accepting when you are wrong shows that you accept yourself, and if you think someone is throwing "jabs" at you, don’t let it offend you because confident people don’t let others tear them down in any way.
Never be rude. Be polite, yet determined and resolute. Being rude is not only ugly, but it is an ugly act and, most of the time, probably uncalled for.
Don’t confuse self-confidence with being overly arrogant or conceited. Confidence is often quiet because you know within yourself who you are and don’t need to prove it to others, but don’t worry, it still shows softly. Self-confidence begins when you believe that you are worthy of becoming anything that you want. Practice these tips and habits to build that confidence for self-growth.
As always, don’t forget to smile more and hold your head high!